Comments on: Quiverfull in the Military http://mamaarcher.com/2009/06/26/quiverfull-in-the-military/ a reformed mama raising many arrows Sun, 14 Aug 2011 19:58:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Mary @Raising 4 Godly Men http://mamaarcher.com/2009/06/26/quiverfull-in-the-military/comment-page-1/#comment-8450 Mary @Raising 4 Godly Men Wed, 08 Jul 2009 20:03:44 +0000 http://mamaarcher.com/?p=1360#comment-8450 Hi there ! I have a friend that you might want to check out. Her HSB is http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/msmarla She is a hs mama of many kids that her hubby is away quiet often. Blessing and ((HUGS)) my SSiC In Him< -Mary .-= Mary @Raising 4 Godly Men´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Canadagirl/705752/" rel="nofollow">Tightwad Tuesday ~ A Eccomomical Way To Be Creative With Picture Editing/Scrapbooking</a> =-. Hi there ! I have a friend that you might want to check out. Her HSB is http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/msmarla

She is a hs mama of many kids that her hubby is away quiet often.

Blessing and ((HUGS)) my SSiC
In Him<
-Mary
.-= Mary @Raising 4 Godly Men´s last blog ..Tightwad Tuesday ~ A Eccomomical Way To Be Creative With Picture Editing/Scrapbooking =-.

]]> By: MamaArcher http://mamaarcher.com/2009/06/26/quiverfull-in-the-military/comment-page-1/#comment-8387 MamaArcher Tue, 30 Jun 2009 16:11:09 +0000 http://mamaarcher.com/?p=1360#comment-8387 Sandy- you obviously have been without hubby quite a bit, those are great ideas! Thank you for sharing! Dani-yes it is good to make sure you are where God wants you no matter what vocation you are in. It is something we evaluate almost on a daily basis. Being in the military to a lot of people is not just a job however, it really is somewhat of a calling. It takes a special kind of person and family to be able to be in the military. Many do it without the Lord and it is extremely difficult with its own set of problems that most in civilian life do not comprehend. Those who are the military and know the Lord find it a lifestyle that draws them closer and more dependent upon the Him! Driller--I agree with your assessment on homeschooling families. Though it doesn't mean that there are not just as committed parents who do not homeschool, I do believe that those who do tend to be more proactive and intentional in their parenting, one reason we homeschool is that we need to be more proactive and intentional in raising up a godly heritage. Julie- I can sooo relate to the struggle of the control freak! *grin* Sandy- you obviously have been without hubby quite a bit, those are great ideas! Thank you for sharing!

Dani-yes it is good to make sure you are where God wants you no matter what vocation you are in. It is something we evaluate almost on a daily basis. Being in the military to a lot of people is not just a job however, it really is somewhat of a calling. It takes a special kind of person and family to be able to be in the military. Many do it without the Lord and it is extremely difficult with its own set of problems that most in civilian life do not comprehend. Those who are the military and know the Lord find it a lifestyle that draws them closer and more dependent upon the Him!

Driller–I agree with your assessment on homeschooling families. Though it doesn’t mean that there are not just as committed parents who do not homeschool, I do believe that those who do tend to be more proactive and intentional in their parenting, one reason we homeschool is that we need to be more proactive and intentional in raising up a godly heritage.

Julie- I can sooo relate to the struggle of the control freak! *grin*

]]> By: Dani http://mamaarcher.com/2009/06/26/quiverfull-in-the-military/comment-page-1/#comment-8380 Dani Tue, 30 Jun 2009 13:01:25 +0000 http://mamaarcher.com/?p=1360#comment-8380 Just a thought but, make sure you and your husband are absolutely certain that God is wanting him back in the military. The father is extremely important to raising Godly children and having him absent most of the time could be very hard on the family. So, choose wisely. .-= Dani´s last blog ..<a href="http://dani.redeemedbygrace.org/?p=118" rel="nofollow">“The Fraud and Fantasy of Freewill”</a> =-. Just a thought but, make sure you and your husband are absolutely certain that God is wanting him back in the military. The father is extremely important to raising Godly children and having him absent most of the time could be very hard on the family. So, choose wisely.
.-= Dani´s last blog ..“The Fraud and Fantasy of Freewill” =-.

]]> By: Sandy http://mamaarcher.com/2009/06/26/quiverfull-in-the-military/comment-page-1/#comment-8377 Sandy Tue, 30 Jun 2009 11:50:04 +0000 http://mamaarcher.com/?p=1360#comment-8377 A good way to keep Daddy involved is to keep journals. He can keep a journal of his day to day activities (within reason of course...depending on where he is) and you and the kids can keep one too. Exchange once a month (if he'll be gone long) Something we did was a regular picture exchange. I'd take pics of the kids, and he'd take pics of his surroundings and we'd email them weekly. For just you and he...make it a point to share as much as you can of your daily life. That helped my husband a lot when he came home, he already knew the mundane workings of our schedule, because I'd bored him with it already! =P .-= Sandy´s last blog ..<a href="http://blessedfam.blogspot.com/2009/06/yes.html" rel="nofollow">Yes.</a> =-. A good way to keep Daddy involved is to keep journals. He can keep a journal of his day to day activities (within reason of course…depending on where he is) and you and the kids can keep one too. Exchange once a month (if he’ll be gone long)
Something we did was a regular picture exchange. I’d take pics of the kids, and he’d take pics of his surroundings and we’d email them weekly.
For just you and he…make it a point to share as much as you can of your daily life. That helped my husband a lot when he came home, he already knew the mundane workings of our schedule, because I’d bored him with it already! =P
.-= Sandy´s last blog ..Yes. =-.

]]> By: Julie http://mamaarcher.com/2009/06/26/quiverfull-in-the-military/comment-page-1/#comment-8364 Julie Tue, 30 Jun 2009 03:02:49 +0000 http://mamaarcher.com/?p=1360#comment-8364 Good advice for all of us... to remember that it is GOD who works in the hearts of our children. Not to minimize the parents' role, but we are called to be faithful, and God is in charge of the results. (That's hard on a "control freak" like me!) Julie... a different Julie (my husband is an architect) .-= Julie´s last blog ..<a href="http://herdinggrasshoppers.blogspot.com/2009/06/simple-woman-24.html" rel="nofollow">Simple Woman #24</a> =-. Good advice for all of us… to remember that it is GOD who works in the hearts of our children. Not to minimize the parents’ role, but we are called to be faithful, and God is in charge of the results. (That’s hard on a “control freak” like me!)

Julie… a different Julie (my husband is an architect)
.-= Julie´s last blog ..Simple Woman #24 =-.

]]> By: DrillerAA http://mamaarcher.com/2009/06/26/quiverfull-in-the-military/comment-page-1/#comment-8363 DrillerAA Tue, 30 Jun 2009 02:49:14 +0000 http://mamaarcher.com/?p=1360#comment-8363 Well said indeed. Attending church is critical in my opinion. It provides a support group of believers while dad is away. When dad does return, it is absolutely necessary that he is involved in the lives of the children. Otherwise, there is a danger that they may resent what he has chosen to do for a living. This is true regardless of the job and is certainly not unique to the military. While I grew up in a different era, I do believe that homeschooling parents tend to have more of a personal commitment to their kids and are, in fact involved in their lives. As Sandy has said, finding a Grandfather figure is a GREAT idea, and church is probably the best place to find such a person. Have a blessed week. .-= DrillerAA´s last blog ..<a href="http://jr-brainfreeze.blogspot.com/2009/05/new-home.html" rel="nofollow">New Home</a> =-. Well said indeed.
Attending church is critical in my opinion. It provides a support group of believers while dad is away.
When dad does return, it is absolutely necessary that he is involved in the lives of the children. Otherwise, there is a danger that they may resent what he has chosen to do for a living. This is true regardless of the job and is certainly not unique to the military. While I grew up in a different era, I do believe that homeschooling parents tend to have more of a personal commitment to their kids and are, in fact involved in their lives.
As Sandy has said, finding a Grandfather figure is a GREAT idea, and church is probably the best place to find such a person. Have a blessed week.
.-= DrillerAA´s last blog ..New Home =-.

]]> By: Sandy http://mamaarcher.com/2009/06/26/quiverfull-in-the-military/comment-page-1/#comment-8293 Sandy Sun, 28 Jun 2009 11:40:07 +0000 http://mamaarcher.com/?p=1360#comment-8293 Great advice! Another thing to consider is: for longer deployments (we're Army, they're usually a year long with some exceptions) is to find an older man/grandfather figure that can help mentor your boys. All of my kids missed Daddy during our last deployment, but my son felt it the most. Surrounded by girls and one baby brother...he felt the lack of 'manliness' With my husband's permission (very important!!) I allowed my son to spend regular time at his best friend's house, where the father is a pastor. He was willing to romp with him as much as his own son, and those days made a world of difference. A good church makes all the difference. Even if you end up in a 'civilian' church, the abundance of love and support you'll receive from a body of believers makes all the difference. .-= Sandy´s last blog ..<a href="http://blessedfam.blogspot.com/2009/06/funny.html" rel="nofollow">funny</a> =-. Great advice!
Another thing to consider is: for longer deployments (we’re Army, they’re usually a year long with some exceptions) is to find an older man/grandfather figure that can help mentor your boys.
All of my kids missed Daddy during our last deployment, but my son felt it the most. Surrounded by girls and one baby brother…he felt the lack of ‘manliness’
With my husband’s permission (very important!!) I allowed my son to spend regular time at his best friend’s house, where the father is a pastor. He was willing to romp with him as much as his own son, and those days made a world of difference.
A good church makes all the difference. Even if you end up in a ‘civilian’ church, the abundance of love and support you’ll receive from a body of believers makes all the difference.
.-= Sandy´s last blog ..funny =-.

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