Merely Words or True Concern
Maybe you have noticed that I have not been blogging much. Then again, I think my readership has shrunk over the months and not many have noticed. That is okay even though I would love to have a vibrant blog that many flock to. I blog not for others but for the Lord. I have however, had a hard time blogging as of late. My life in many ways is going very well, I am loving where the Lord has brought us, and I am blessed abundantly. My heart has also had many things burden it lately and it carries great sadness. I have also been learning along this journey that many who say they care, really are merely just speaking words not expressing true concern. I think that is what hurts the most. It is hard when you are lonely even though you are surrounded by so many. It is hard when you feel you must carry burdens alone when surrounded by Christian brothers and sisters. When you cannot even share prayer requests for fear of gossip and persecution. Alas, that is where I find myself in life in this stage of the game. It is sad when you feel that even the joys of your life are not joys to others. I am thankful for a husband and children who can show true love, compassion, joy, and companionship. I am thankful for a Savior who will never leave me or forsake me. I am thankful for a changeless Savior. I am thankful that he is available and willing to share in my burdens, griefs, and even joys and gladness. I only wish those of his church were more like him!
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June 18th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
The truth is that many who profess Christianity are not really in the faith. They have to have placed their faith in Christ alone. They can’t rely on some work they did (sinner’s prayer, baptism, any form of “keeping the law” etc.) to get them into heaven. They need to realize how separated from God they are by sin and that the only way to Him is through Christ. Saved by GRACE through faith.
So, possibly many of those you are believing to be Christians are not truly in the faith and therefore they are not to be relied upon for anything really.
I feel your pain with having friends that truly care or support you. I have only one really close friend outside of my family unit. She is truly in the faith and I am blessed to have her even as a long distance friend. She is from Virginia and I am from Montana. I have another more casual friend who is also in the faith and she is great but hard to get on the phone because of the busy lifestyle she keeps.(she’s from IL.)
Although it is difficult, I do believe we have to choose our close friends wisely and mainly if we stick to our faith, we will more than likely not ever be the most popular people around. There’s only a remnant in the faith as you probably know.
My point is that the Christian life can be lonely, but we need to accept it and be grateful for what we do have. I know you know how blessed you are to have your children and husband.
If you want to talk or anything you could check me out at my website that is linked to my name.
I also keep a few blogs on blogspot, my one that is all about God is http://redeemedbysovereigngrace.org. You can look at my profile if you are interested to see the others.
God bless,
Dani
June 18th, 2009 at 1:34 pm
Oops, I gave the wrong blog link…
The blog is actually http://redeemedbysovereigngrace.blogspot.com
sorry about that.
Twitter: MamaArcher
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June 18th, 2009 at 2:21 pm
Dani- Thank you for your comments! I do agree with you and understand what you are saying! There are those who claim to be Christians and do not live like Christ, maybe they are redeemed and maybe they are not. All true Christians stumble and fall and fail to be Christlike (myself included. I think many do not realize this failure when it happens and that saddens me. I am glad that the Lord is the one who judges the heart. I think being a Christian should not be a lonely place, we are called to bear one anothers burdens, to weep with those who weep, to rejoice with those who rejoice, unfortunately it is a lonely place many times.
June 18th, 2009 at 3:29 pm
Amen! I totally agree with you. I really don’t have any real close friends outside of my family group, but even my family doesn’t “get” my walk of faith. We have seven kids now, and I wouldn’t mind more, but you can tell that they all think we’re a little crazy, so I really have no one to share my burdens and concerns with either! Thankfully, like you said, we have a Savior who hears our every prayer and knows before we even pray it! And who feels our every pain and treasures our every tear!
June 18th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
One of the ironies of the blog world – if you don’t blog much and comment you loose readers. But these are only cyber friends.
Another irony is that sometimes it seems we meet up up with more like minded folk on the net than in our real lives! Though I am blessed at present with both close family and friends near by I do remember very lonely days and pray this will pass for you. The Lord draws us through some dark valleys but it is always to draw us closer to him.
Kristine, it is such a blessing to read your honest posts.
What you are going through is true to life and most readers will have experienced it, if not they will at some time, if they are truly seeking the Lord. You have not chosen to gloss over real life and make out as though every thing is wonderful. This makes you a real life and down to earth person that we can relate to and not some unattainable dream in the christian, homeschooling, SAHM world.
God bless you and your family. May he give you the desire of your heart as you delight in him.
Ruby (An internet friend who looks forward to meeting you in glory one day!!)
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June 18th, 2009 at 3:56 pm
Aw thanks Ruby! Sometimes I wonder if maybe I am a bit too honest here. So many times people do not want to hear about struggles. I am often put on a pedastool by others and expected to be perfect or at least not let others know when I am not perfect. I am far from it.
June 19th, 2009 at 4:54 am
Hi Kristine, I used to leave commnents but then the comments were closed for a while, and after that life here got hectic with a very sick child. I too have only a few friends but unfortunatly the only one who is a strong christian lady,(but she lives in the states, me in England) but none who feel and believe as my husband and I do. Our families think we are mad for our lifestyle choices of trying to live biblically. They just think we are too religous. But I know that God loves us and carries us when the burdens are tough and if you want just send me an email and I’ll pray any time. Sending you hugs
shelley p
from over the pond
June 19th, 2009 at 6:46 am
Hi there. Just passing along a hug. I will pray for you.
June 19th, 2009 at 7:32 am
I found out much of what you’re speaking about a few years ago; it’s a miserable place to be, not having good, solid support from those who claim to be your “family”, but if there’s one blessing, it’s that you really do come out of it understanding the peace of God and how much He wants us to lean on Him.
Oh, and people really do read about struggles; who knows how many people you could bless sharing what you’re going through?
June 19th, 2009 at 6:47 pm
Kristine,
Thanks for being so transparent. I have recently felt the same way you spoke of in your blog and I have learned from recent loss and grief. One of the greatest lessons to come out of feeling and being “alone” for me was the realization that as christians we have to be more than words, we must be doers! I am sorry for your recent loss.
You ARE in my prayers.
Korin
June 22nd, 2009 at 11:22 am
Hello! I thought I would stop by your blog today. I don’t blog much, but I do read some blogs from time to time.
I could’ve written your post. My kids and I were just talking about this very subject. I do agree that many people who profess to be Christian, are indeed NOT saved. However, there are many Christians in the church with a very humanistic worldview too. I also believe that satan is attacking families, Christians, and The Church. So many people are at odds with each other. Christians are being divided over minor issues. Long time friendships are ending over nothing. No one seems to care anymore. We have several friends that we believe really care about us, but none in a 100 mile radius! It is hard to find a church because the world has crept in. I could go on and on. So many people hurting. I too and so thankful for my Savior who bears all of my burdens and carries me and NEVER changes. I am also thankful for my wonderful (immediate) family. We are all best friends. We don’t have any extended family that we can fellowship with. I just can’t wait for heaven when the sin nature will be gone and we will all live in peace.
June 28th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
Hi, I haven’t read your blog in over a month. I finally had our baby girl on April 23rd. Hope all is well. From looking at your blog, one thought comes to mind.
“You have a beautiful Family.”
May God helps us to have eyes that see like He sees.
To have a heart that feels like He does, and a love that shows His likeness.
Sincerely,
Linda
Linda´s last blog ..Being Seen Through
July 19th, 2009 at 10:09 am
Kristine,
I’ve been praying for you since first reading this…and life got nuts with our adventurous PCS move…..but I’m praying that things are better…and hoping to catch up on blogs as I have nothing to do now but wait for paperwork to arrive so that I can try to leave the country again. ::snort::
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