Babies Having Babies
I know the title of this post is an older and seemingly overused phrase but that is exactly what this post is about. I saw an article come across on my Facebook page today that saddened my heart. A boy 13 and a girl 15 delivered a healthy baby girl. Neither seem to have any idea of what is involved in raising a child. The road ahead will be hard not only for them but for this little girl. I do, however, commend them for not aborting this precious child and seeing the value of life. Even amidst sinful circumstances God does often bless with a child. Yes, even a child in this situation is a gift and blessing from the Lord not merely a physical consequence. The saddest thing, so many do not realize that the view of sex has been so distorted by society that there is little value and purity left. This situation is a symptom of what so many young adults have been being taught. Maybe it is time to begin teaching them something other than contraception. Maybe we need to replace that with value, purity, and abstinence.
Where are the parents of these teenagers? I wonder what kind of relationship these youth have with their parents that they are seeking effection elsewhere. Was there any guidance, discussion, confidence in their own parental authority? It just makes me wonder. Yes, the teens are ultimately responsible but some of the blame may be laid at the feet of their authority (lack of) as well as the culture of devalueing.
There will always be those that fall into temptation and end up in these situations. My main point is that we have so lowered the bar of expectation we should not be surprized when things like this happen. Let us raise the bar back to where it should be and expect children to live up to it. Put value, meaning, and purpose back in place.
Here is the news article: Baby-faced boy Alfie Patten is father at 13
Your thoughts??????
Tags: culture, pro-life Posted in News, pro-life
February 13th, 2009 at 2:23 pm
We saw that item in the news here as well. Praise God, there is a generation which is seeking to “raise the bar”. From sad personal experience I know that children don’t always heed our teaching, advice and example on the moral isssues. The pull of the world is very great. But there are many Godly young sons and daughters, too, and today I am attending the marriage of one such couple. Again, thank God. I’m interested in the comment of the children being a blessing regardless of birth circumstance. I see it this way with my grand children. I have heard the opinion in Christian circles that they are only a blessing to believing parents and bring a curse upon those who are outside the household of faith. Certainly, the child himself is not to blame but I find this idea harsh. What think ye?
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February 14th, 2009 at 8:47 am
Along with you, I am grateful that the parents valued life enough not to abort. In a perfect world… no wait, in a perfect world this wouldn’t happen at all… but in a better world they would think of the child’s well-being and choose adoption.
I worked for a Christian OB/GYN before I had my children, and many of the situations were heartbreaking. Again, we rejoiced in the life of the babies, but the parents were something else. They seemed to think no further ahead than infancy. You know, like a baby would be a cute accessory to carry around at the mall.
Sometimes the moms are so desperate to be loved that they look to the baby to fill that need. Then, when the baby becomes a demanding toddler, they have another baby.
On the other hand… my cousin got pregnant her junior year in HS. She’s not a believer, so her reasoning may have been different, but she carried the baby and adopted it out. Hard? Definitely. But right? Definitely.
My cousin finished high school and is now a happily married mom of two. That baby (now a high schooler!) is/was a blessing.
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February 14th, 2009 at 5:58 pm
This is so sad! Unfortunately a cycle develops and this new precious life may wind up having her own child just a mere 13-15 years from now. My husband and I look at our children and pray for their protection and that what we are doing to love them, nurture them and guide them is truly enough for them to make wise choices. I have to believe they will. I have to trust that they will abide by the biblical foundations we are laying in their hearts.
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February 15th, 2009 at 8:19 pm
Ruby- I too find that idea harsh. Scripture speaks of children as a blessing. I know of several circumstances where the circumstances were not according to the Biblical plan and children were born into horrible situations and the Lord used those blessing to bring about healing in the lives of others. God always accomplishes his purposes and for his glory.
February 16th, 2009 at 1:28 am
Thanks for those comments. I certainly pray constantly that the Lord will work in my children and now my grandbabies. I also see the responsiblilies I have as a believing grandparent to be an influence in the lives of these little ones. They are a great blessing to me.
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February 16th, 2009 at 7:20 pm
Often the pressures of the society that we live in overtakes even the most Godly families. Like others have stated, now is the time to pray for your children and grandchildren. Waiting until the wedding day to pray that they have found a Godly spouse is too late! Lift up your family everyday in prayer. Lift up the children of every family that you know. They will appreciate the fact that you are praying for them.
Lord, wrap your arms around our children and grandchildren. Bring the joy and happiness into their lives that can only be found by living a life that is pure and joining in marriage to a partner that shares a love for the things of God.
MamaArcher
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February 17th, 2009 at 7:56 am
Amen! Thank you Driller!!
February 19th, 2009 at 12:57 pm
Hearing about these stories always breaks my heart. While I am so grateful that they chose life. The road ahead for these kids is going to be a hard one and I am sure was not God’s best for them. (God’s best being waiting until they are married adults of course.)
It is so sad that the bar is so low for kids. I have a few friends whose parents raised the bar and they never even held hands until they were married. Their first kiss was at their wedding. Many say that this is an unrealistic expectation for kids to live up to but I say it is very realistic and worth it. I pray that my kids will want more than what the world says they should settle for. I pray that they will choose God’s best.
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March 6th, 2009 at 1:48 pm
Super-Duper site! I am loving it!! Will come back again – taking you feeds also, Thanks.
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March 19th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
Well said, finally a good report on this stuff