As you may know from reading a previous post on commenting here, I am not a big fan of anonymous readers. Especially those who post their comments on an unrelated post. I did come across one that I wanted to answer because it includes so many of the arguments I often hear concerning the convictions that are evident in my life. I would like to remind those who read this that this comment was anonymous and posted on a older post of mine that had nothing to do with the content of their comment. The comment will be posted exactly as it was written and in the box.

I am a Christian and very open minded. I love children. I go to church
and reas the bible. I’m not perfect but i’m not the devil. My thoughts to you are, you say you have kids because you don’t belive in safe sex. But don’t you think this is selfish of you. Last time i check being selfish was a sin. How can you possibly make enough time and spend time with your kinds if you have os many andyour always pregnant. Don’t you think about them? What is the point of having so many if the next thing your going to be worries about is having another baby. This is not fair to them. God made you a mother to take care of your children not to make them take care of themselves. You have the older kids caring for the little ones. Are you sure this is what God wants you to be doing? This is not me judging you, because that would also be a sin. I’m questioning your theory, and trying to make you ask your self is this is what God really wants for you and your children?Best wishes for you and you little one and big ones. Hope you can make time for the most important things in your life, because life is way to short for your kids to grow up with a mom who’s always pregnant. You’re missing out on the most wonderful things of life.

I am often given this type of response/comment and I can simply say that included in it are a lot of assumptions and misunderstandings.
Many of the assumptions listed are:

• there is not enough time for many children
• pregnancy interferes with what time there is
• that I worry about becoming pregnant
• that I do not care for my children
• that the olders children do everything
• that the children always take care of themselves
• that my convictions are merely a theory
• that I do not make time for the most important things in my life
• that there is something wrong or negative about having a pregnant mother
• that I am missing out on the most wonderful things in life

These are in fact assumptions and not facts. I have more time for my children than most parents who work all day and/or send their children to day care and out to school in addition to extra curricular activities. I do care for my children. Yes, the older children do help out a lot but they by no means do everything or are raising themselves. My children are learning life skills and how to care for others and place them above themselves. What better way to learn selflessness than to be in a postion to place others before themselves. I do not think it selfish of me to have this many children, in fact, I find that idea laughable. This is one argument that baffles me. If I were to have fewer children I would have much more opportunity to put myself first! I am constantly placing the well-being of others before myself. It is often said that the best way to address selfishness is to have a child. I have many!

I do teach my children at home and place them before almost everything else. I would say that I do make time for the most important things in life. I am not missing out on the most wonderful things in life, I am living with them everyday!

I do feel a strong negativity toward pregnancy in your comment. I will admit that I have had some rough pregnancies. This can and does make things difficult. Again, I do not think that this is a bad thing for other children. It gives them the opportunity to see how much I value life, what being a living sacrifice is, and the great love I have for each of my children to endure the physical difficulties that might but do not always accompany pregnancy. Having times when I am not feel well provides great opportunities to sit and read, color, talk, or play with the children when I might otherwise find other things to occupy my time. It is especially good for the children who like to play doctor, nurse, or mother. Prenancy is not a bad thing. Pregnancy as well as children is a blessing.

Lastly, to say I do not believe in safe sex or that my lifestly is merely a theory is to completely miss the whole point. I do not live this way or hold these beliefs as a theory. I believe that sex the way the Lord designed it is indeed safe and I should not have to intervene. Pregnancy within marraige does not fall into the category of unsafe sex.

My husband and I have come to our convictions through the Word, prayer, and leading of the Spirit in accordance with the Word. This is not just a theory. We have scriptural reasons and we believe a Biblical mandate to live as we do.

Unfortunately, so much of the world’s culture has seeped into the church today that many are blinded in so many areas that they do not see the truths that lie within the scripture or have become comfortable enough in the cultural midset to dismiss them.