What Do Men Consider Immodest?
I ran across this site while browsing and think it is a wonderful resource. Do women really think about what a man sees as being immodest? What do they struggle with when it comes to fidelity of mind and do we place stumbling blocks in front of them by the way we dress, carry ourselves, or adorn ourselves? For instance some things that registered as immodest were: carrying your purse with the strap diagonally across the chest, showing any cleavage at all, or wearing nude colored clothing. It is very interesting to read about these things from the guys point of view rather than just our own.
The Modesty Survey is an exciting, anonymous discussion between Christian guys and girls who care about modesty. The honest truth is this: We’re not telling you what to wear — we’re just telling you what we, as guys, have to guard against. It is God’s Word, your own heart and conscience, and your parents and godly friends who should help you decide what to do about it.snippet from their website
Take some time and browse through their site and their findings at The Modesty Survey.
Posted in Modesty
May 27th, 2008 at 5:56 pm
VERY interesting, thanks for posting this!
May 27th, 2008 at 11:02 pm
way cool! I sent the link to my man to read too. I’ll be interested for his input.
Some of the answers are not what I expected.
very interesting indeed.
May 29th, 2008 at 7:04 am
Very interesting. I was a little surprised at some of the outcomes in both directions.
June 11th, 2008 at 4:28 am
Personally, I think it was some of the questions that I thought were more interesting than the answers. I hadn’t thought before to plunge the depths of the difference in strap sizes and the effect of how one takes off their sweater.
Granted, I’m no longer a teenager, and I do know that these things have an effect, but the biggest thing that the survey taught me is that there is very little that some guy will not think is immodest.
The survey showed that no matter the qualifier there was never an agreement among all (that I can remember) that something was modest or immodest.
This tells me more about the guys than the girls. It tells me that they’re either underexposed to the culture at large (such that innocent things are considered risque) or that they are too preoccupied with sex and sexual things such that everything becomes sexual to them.
June 13th, 2008 at 9:46 pm
One thing that I found interesting was that there were some things that scored equally as to immodest and modest. Which to me just reinforced the fact that different men have different areas of struggle. Some things that many will not find immodest could still be a large hurdle for others.
I thought that it was good though to help us ladies to be more aware of some of the things that we may not have thought of that men do struggle with daily. Like the purse thing, I am still trying to break myself of that habit. I mentioned it to my hubby and he said “yep, that is an eye draw for many.” I had to ask why he never mentioned it to me before. I just had never even thought of it.
June 13th, 2008 at 9:55 pm
Hence the dilemma. Modesty does indeed have to start with the heart, and there comes a point where a girl can only do so much. I mean, if something’s equally fine and a problem, what’s a girl to do. The guy must learn to control his eyes.
As for the purse, I think that it could’ve caused a problem for me as a teen, but I think a lot of these types of things you wonder if you should even mention– something that is natural for a girl and that isn’t immodest, so you should just control yourself.
I had this one time where a girl was wearing a shirt, and I could see her “headlights” on at work. I didn’t know what to do. So, I went to an older lady that I respected at work and asked whether it was normal or if she could talk to her. The girl in question said she wouldn’t wear the shirt again– because it was perhaps too tight.
See– I didn’t know whether it was just me (something I should control) or whether it was something that the girl shouldn’t have worn.
There are fine lines all around.